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“You have too many friends!”

xine way 🌟
2 min readSep 1, 2023
Photo by Duy Pham on Unsplash

My new therapist recently exclaimed when I told her I’d made a point of keeping up with at least 20 people.

She said when she asked how many friends I had, she was expecting a number under 10. But as it is, I try to keep my social circle wide. I enjoy every individual’s perspective, advice, and company. Everyone is unique, after all, and sometimes they can account for blind spots that I can’t see myself.

But sometimes pushing yourself to socialize with so many people can be exhausting. It can be rewarding, too, but it’s hard to find time for yourself when you’re constantly putting yourself out there.

Friendship is something I’ve written about extensively because I feel like there are so many more relationship books out there instead of friendship ones. And while romantic relationships are great, platonic relationships are very important as well. And we all know the age-old adage about adult friendships being difficult to maintain.

As our responsibilities increase and our free time decreases, it’s oftentimes hard to schedule quality time with friends. But it’s so, so worth it. Two of my friends and I have monthly artist dates, where we work on individual creative projects at a given time. It’s a nice way to exercise creativity, even if it’s only twice a month for me.

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xine way 🌟
xine way 🌟

Written by xine way 🌟

Aspiring librarian who writes, games, and walks on the side. Always happy to connect with writers on Medium!

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