Rewiring My Brain at 29
Praying brain plasticity can help fix what’s broken
For the longest time, I’ve had a fixed mindset. It stemmed mostly from shame, feelings of inadequacy, and low self-worth.
What I’ve been trying to do since 25 (even though my brain has supposedly developed already by then) is to change the way I think about things.
If I fail, that doesn’t make me a failure.
If I make a mistake, I can feel guilty rather than ashamed.
Brene Brown taught me a lot about guilt v. shame.
And I’m tired of shaming myself.
What I’ve learned is that you can run to all your loved ones for validation, but at the end of the day, it’s you with your thoughts and life to live.
So I’ve decided to stop being so self-destructive.
Rejections and failure are a natural part of life. What matters is what you do after them.
I’m done breaking down.
I’m done challenging relationships.
I want to let it all go and learn how to live rather than survive.
I just hope I can get there, wherever there may be, simply by being.
